Unpreprared for the Loss

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I wonder how it all works out, the babies
for whom life is just a breath, transition from
the womb to heaven over in just weeks.
Whether ended by the will of man or God or
nature, moving from brief life within their
mothers to a life beyond our comprehension,
leaving greater fall-out than you'd think
with ones so tiny. Hormones still astir,
these one-time mothers understand, perhaps,
that this is for the best; some even planned
that it would happen. Still,
there's an empty place that wasn't there
before the babe began to fill it, and it takes
some time before her heart adjusts
to a loss discovered so recently.


(c) Ellen Gillette, 2013

A woman I know learned today that she had had a miscarriage. It was not a planned pregnancy - indeed, because she was on birth control and for a myriad of reasons, it would have been a very difficult pregnancy. But she is still sad, and a little mystified by this.